Stemom Kills Her Kids? Yup, you still have to see her.

In yet another brilliant move by the family courts, children are being sent to live with a father who is married to a woman who killed her own 4 and 8 year old daughters. That's right, it's okay to kill your children because you can just marry a man who has his own children. These kids are teenagers, and yet not one word about how they feel in this tragedy. No thoughts on what it will be like being disciplined by a woman psycho enough to extrerminate her family.
 I'm sorry kids, we have failed you. Please stay safe. Keep a phone with you at all times. If you are ever scared, call 911, from a land line hang up and don't pick it up when they call back, this way they have to respond. Know that school officials and hospital workers are mandated reporters. If you so much as get scary feeling with that woman, get out and get help.

Mom Loses Custody Battle with Ex, Who Is Married to a Child Killer

Posted Aug 1, 2011 9:14 AM CDT
By Debra Cassens Weiss

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An Oregon woman is appealing a child custody decision that allows a child killer to help raise her two sons.

Trisha Conlon of Silverton, Ore., fought to keep the boys out of her ex-husband’s home after a private investigator confirmed he was living with Kristine Cushing on Vashon Island near Seattle, the Associated Press reports.

Kristine Cushing was married twice to John Cushing Jr., both before and after he married Trisha Conlon. During Kristine and John’s first marriage, she killed their two daughters, ages 4 and 8, and blamed her actions on temporary insanity caused by Prozac, the story says. She was hospitalized nearly four years in a mental institution and underwent nearly a decade of psychiatric monitoring before receiving an unconditional release in 2005, when she remarried John Cushing.
A parenting plan gives Conlon custody of her 14-year-old son during the school year, while John Cushing has custody of their 13-year-old boy during that time, the AP story says. The teens split holidays and vacations between the two parents.
Conlon learned in 2007 that her one-time husband was living with Kristine, but he said they were getting divorced and she was no longer living there. Conlon's suspicions that John and Kristine had reconciled were confirmed when she hired a private investigator early this year.
Conlon then sought a permanent modification of the parenting plan with John Cushing, but Commissioner Leonid Ponomarchuk of King County, Wash., refused the change, the story says. Ponomarchuk reasoned that the boys had been spending time with Kristine Cushing since 2008, although Conlon wasn’t aware of it, and there had been no problems.

Can You Trust the Police to Help You?

The issue regarding whether to trust law enforcement is a difficult one for me personally. I have family members who are police officers and I trust them and the way they conduct themselves at work. However, I have also had encounters in which police have been less than helpful and times they have been down right cruel. It is difficult as a child stuck in a bitter custody fight to figure out whether the police are friends or foes.

First off the police are PISSED that they have been called into your situation. Likely they have been called because you are refusing to go along with the visitation schedule. In their minds, you are the problem and if you would just get with the program, they can get back to doing "real police work" But if they think that your the asshole, then embrace your role. Be the asshole. The longer you dig in your heels and refuse to go, the more likely they will give up.

However, it is important that you treat the cops with respect, even when you are refusing to go along with what they want from you. Don't give them an excuse to escalate the situation. Because they are looking for any excuse to paint you as the bad guy, and them as the conquering hero. They will lie to you, attempt to intimidate you, and they may even arrest you and tell you they won't let you go until you agree togo with the non custodial parent. Let them blow all the hot air they want, let them get mad. Be polite but firm. Tell them that you are not going.

Realize that the more you refuse to do what the police officer says, the more angry and threatening they may get. For this reason, all encounters with the police should be videotaped. Something that the police are trying to prevent by making it illegal to videotape them at all in certain states. This is a worrisome issue. However, it is well worth the possibility of facing an illegal wiretaping charge then do be stuck defenseless when an encounter with the police goes bad.
Observe:





So here is an officer threatening, intimidating and assaulting a teenager; just because he can. Witout tis videotape, no one would have ever believed him. This tape reinforces several key points. One, don't disrespect the officer. Apparently they really hate being called "Dude". Two, they can and will do what they want with you. Three, without videoape evidence, you will be in no position to defend yourself against a rouge police officer such as this.

When you decide you ave had enough of the family courts and current custody situation, things will likely escalate. If you ever need help because your non-custodial parent is threatening you or even abusing you: imagine that it will be Officer Rivieri that will show up and not Officer Friendly. If your father is a jerk, an encounter with an officer like this will only make him more likely to continue his behavior because he realizes that the police won't do anything to him. That is yet another reason why you have to fight for yourself. When you were a kid your parents taught you all about right and wrong, the good guys and the bad guys, black and white. The truth is,  it is all a grey area and life isn't fair. Take care of yourself and don't expect anyone to do it for you. You can ask the police for help, but don't expect it.

How to Fight Getting on a Plane

Long distance visitation is a pain in the ass. For everyone, least of all you. You have been ordered by a judge to leave behind your friend's, pets, hobbies, bedroom and life for 2-3 months just to make someone else happy. You may have gone along with it for years but by about 12 years old you can begin to fight back against this yearly hassle. And it's easy. Don't get on the plane.
First off, inform your non-custodial parent that you do not plan on attending visitation this summer. Do it via email or facebook or text if at all possible. Be calm and clear. Realize that the other parent is probably going to choose two different responses. Negotiation or Terrorism.
1. Negotiation
Your parent will probably say something along the lines of " I'll let you go home early".  Warning, it's trap. Haven't you ever seen a Lifetime Movie? As soon as they get you where they want you then they will never willingly drive you back to the airport. Once they've got you, you're stuck.
2. Terrorism
Expect to hear " I'm the ADULT and you will do as I say!" Oh Really. That's what they think. don't start a fight. Never agree to terrorist demands.
Either answer is unacceptable. You have made your decision. Hopefully you have articulated it in a clear rational manner and now you need to enforce that decision. By not getting on the plane.

There is no need to create a huge scene at the airport. However, the airport is where you want the battle to occur. This fight is not with the custodial parent, so don't make it one.  Get in the car, pack your luggage, and go to the Gate. If your non custodial parent is a Terrorist, then he will likely try to throw your other parent in jail. It happens when your judge is trying to be a hardass.. And guess where the courts will try to send you after that.

When you arrive at the gate the next step is to ask to speak to one of the flight attendants. Tell them that you are required to spend time with your non custodial parent and you re choosing not to get on the plane. Expect some resistance.  Be clear that you do not wish to cause a scene on the plane, but that you will if necessary. Do not threaten anyone. In ten years from now you don't want to end up on a "No Fly" List.

Expect the airport police to come. Again state your plan to not fly. Ask to leave with your other parent. Your other parent is probably in full on freak out mode. She expected you to leave. She is worried aout getting in trouble. But the truth is, once the flight crew says you can't fly, there is nothing they can do about it either. Don't be the bad guy, call your non-custodial parent and explain that you are at the airport and that you will not be flying today or any other day. You and the other parent may end up milling about for a while, but I guarantee you airport security will send you back home.

Congratulations you have made your stand. You will be in trouble. But you will be in trouble at your own damn house.